Tuesday, 3 April 2012

Pleasing Others?

Hello dear friends.How are you all? Hope everything is good .
Well, today throughout the day ,I've noticed that , the majority of young girls, teenagers,young adults and seniors have a complex about theirselves.

It's uncontrollable ,I spoke with a couple of teenagers , and they were telling me that , they do everything to please others. For example , if someone tells them that they are ugly or they disliked their  jacket , instead of telling them a couple of facts, they prefer to exchange it the day after . In order to avoid any comments from others.This shows that  the individual is very insecure, and cares too much in what people are going to say or do . Being like that , you are destroying your self concept. your self image and self esteem , which is not good at all.

When you don't have confidence , you don't "stand out" ...Yes ! Imagine, if YOU don't love yourself first , and you are always ,depressed , complaining .Who is going to like to be around you ?? It's very hard being around someone who is negative . Someone that you always have to make a comment to make them happy .. Indeed , it's annoying ! YOU have to love yourself first , in order to love others after.

When you dislike your self image , you either tend to isolate yourself from others or do everything to please others. Trying to please men is when the media gets involved. You see the "pretty" , "sexy" celebrities (not that i have something agaisnt them ) on the TV , and automatically you want to be like them , because you see that the get attention from others . But that's not the right way of building a good self-esteem  because, what you see on TV and magazines  is not reality . They have been through thousands of transformations to look perfect.
Some have done surgeries all over their bodies, others have put a lot of make up to cover up their true beauty , others have been  edited through Photoshop. So, don't fool yourself, be who you are . Be unique . You don't need to follow others to feel good. Simply be YOU and you will begin to see that they will be the ones following you .

The statistics of low self-esteem are incredible ...

Take a look :

  • “Girls’ self-esteem peaks when they are 9 years old, then takes a nose dive,” clinical psychologist Robin F. Goodman writes on the New York University Child Study Center Web site.
  • Seventy-five percent of 8- and 9-year-olds who said they liked their looks. That figure dropped to 56 percent among girls ages 12 and 13.
  • Nine — Age at which at least half of all girls report having been on a diet. Eighty percent of eighth grade girls say they are on diets.
  • Seven million girls and women who have eating disorders, compared with 1 million boys and men. Ten percent report onset at 10 years or younger; 33 percent ages 11 to 15.
  • Twenty percent College-aged women in America are bulimic.
  • Girls who watch TV commercials featuring underweight models lose self-confidence and become more dissatisfied with their own bodies (SOURCE: Dove Campaign, “Dove Campaign for Real Beauty to Help Foster Self-Esteem in Girls”.
  • One-third of all girls in grades nine to 12 think they are overweight, and 60 percent are trying to lose weight. (Quoting the Girl Scout Research Institute, 2002-2004).
According to the National Association for Self Esteem, people who have high self esteem typically possess 7 desirable traits.

7 Desirable Traits of Healthy Self-Esteem

  1. Are friendly.
  2. Have lots of energy.
  3. Smile lots and lots and lots.
  4. Feel good most of the time.
  5. Talk positively to themselves.
  6. Draw positive people to them.
  7. Are independent and able to take risks.

Isolating yourself won't make any better ..

It's just going to lead into depression and suicidal thoughts !

If you try to follow the media you'll end up like this              

Change you mentality .. I don't think you would want to end up in neither of this situations.Would you? 
Look at the mirror , and love what you see, you still have eyes, nose,mouth etc. Even if you didn't, no one can tell you who you are.
 YOU know yourself more than anybody else!
Do something to build and strength  a self-esteem of a precious girl !

You will become like this!

Your self image, self concept and  self-esteem reflects who you are. It massively affects you, physically, intellectually,emotionally and socially .This applies in every area of your life, whether in your marriage, friendships, job and so forth.
I Hope you've enjoyed the topic, and  this message were helpful .

Love and Kisses,
Jessica Sebastiao

Monday, 2 April 2012

You are not alone !

Today, I was starting to read the book of Jeremiah and God spoke to me . I read the whole chapter 1 , and I will be reading the whole book . It is very powerful. It has really encourage me to do what God wants me to do , and do not fear . Therefore, I've decided to share with you all.

Sometimes, when we see someone , and God tell us to speak to them , but suddenly something just tells you that ,the individual is not interested or will react in a bad way, and you end up not talking to that person... May be  you even wanted to go after them , but you were so  scared of what would happen ..Did that ever happened to you? Well , be sure that you are not alone . When God tells you to do something don't be afraid ,OBEY.

I've recently realised that some youths in the church are very afraid to speak to others in the streets or elsewhere.Not because they are ashamed , but they are very uncomfortable. They  are very worried in what people (their friends) are going to say , or how people are going to react .Those who think like that , are very negative when they evangelise. The soonest the finish to speak to a person , they are already saying " She/He wasn't even looking at my face.. they aren't interested..they NOT going to come !"  

So, my friends, if you are in this situation , you can erase it now , and start to act in a different way , because it is written . 

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you;
I ordained you a prophet to the nations"
Then I said :
"Ah,Lord God!
Behold, I cannot speak,for I am a youth ".

But the Lord said to me :
"Do not say, ' I am a youth'
For I am with you to deliver you " says the Lord.

Then the Lord put forth his hand and touched my mouth, and the Lord said to me :"Behold, I have put my words in your mouth.
Jeremiah 1-10

"Therefore prepared yourself and arise, and speak to them all that I command you. Do not dismayed before their faces, lest I dismay you before them. For behold, I have made you this day a fortified city and an iron pillar" Jeremiah 1-16:18

So my friends, if you are in this situation , don't fear ! You're not alone 

If you do whatever he commands you , you will start to be a soul winner!

This message applies to ANY area of your life . Don't think you can't make it , because YOU CAN !

Love and Kisses ,
Jessica Sebastiao